Why Having a Baby at Damn Near 50 is NOT a Mistake

So I've been on this journey for seven years... some people may think because I'm 49 I'm being extremely selfish.  And? What?! IDGAF what they say because this is my life and these will be my children.
But lets get real for a second okay?  I know that my chances now are more dire than they were when I first became pregnant at 42 and the last time I was pregnant at 46. As a woman ages, she depletes her egg reserve and what is in reserve is not guaranteed to be viable.  This is what all the books and doctors say.  This is what the asshole of a doctor who let me lose my 2016 Angel baby said.
As a woman of advanced age, it is recommended that we use donor eggs.  Having a baby at my age is not a mistake and it is not impossible.  In fact it wasn't until I started listening to Dr. Aimee that I learned what a Menopause Pregnancy is!
So What are donor eggs exactly and what does that mean to a woman who has low AMH and or no viable eggs?
"Egg donation is the process by which a woman donates eggs to enable another woman to conceive as part of an assisted reproduction treatment or for biomedical research. Wikipedia"Okay and What does that mean?  Will resulting children from an egg donation, be mine?Every egg, like every sperm, carries genetic material from the donor’s entire gene pool (parents, grandparents, great aunts and uncles, and relatives they never met or have even heard about). People tend to worry that if they use donor egg or sperm, the child won’t resemble the parents. In fact, the chances of the child resembling the partner in the relationship (not the donor), will be the same chances of the child resembling the donor. Some people find it helpful to talk about the donor as a contributor to their family building. The whole nature versus nurture idea also helps here to remind us that biology is not destiny – so much of who we become as people are shaped by our environments.  Remember, to some extent, you will have control over what your children are exposed to in terms of their education and family upbringing.As the embryo grows, every cell in the baby’s body is being developed by pregnant mother’s body. The fetus will use the pregnant woman’s protein, sugars, calcium, vitamins, minerals, and fluids to build muscles, bones, nerve cells, and organs. The shape of the baby’s earlobe may have been genetically programmed by the donor’s great, great, grandfather, or the male partner’s (or even sperm donor’s) grandmother’s aunt, but the earlobe itself, and the rest of the baby, grew from the pregnant woman’s body. She may not be a genetic donor but carrying the child makes her the child’s biological mother. I love this explanation so much, because I think a lot of the initial uncertainty around choosing donor tissue stems from the feeling that you aren’t involved in the development and growth of the baby. You are! You will deliver the baby and your body will nourish the baby. Ultimately, being a parent isn’t defined by genetics and egg donation is no different.xo,Desiree